Yes I’m Talking About Love

There is much to be said of love.

It is the sun’s love that opens a flower, just as love opens a child.

Love heals emotional pain, love heals emptiness, for when there there is emptiness, there is no love.

We can’t measure emptiness, but we can measure love.

When there is love there is fullness, and wholeness.

Just like rain is necessary to grow new things on earth, tears to human beings heal us so new things can grow in our lives.

Allow yourself tears today in healing.

If you are feeling empty and incomplete, find someone to love.

Let that one you find to love be you!

There Are No Victims

The second biggest lie you keep telling yourself is that you are a victim.

No one did anything to you.

You have masterfully created everything in your life.

You created all the pain.

You created the loss.

It’s all because of the first lie you tell yourself.

The lie that has caused your whole story and created all the characters in it.

The lie that has removed all the good that has ever entered your world.

That lie is that you are are not deserving of unconditional love.

Truth, Love, Solution

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The most powerful thing on the planet is love.

I’ve never found that loving more hasn’t made any situation, any problem, better.

Loving the human being that I am and loving others has proven to be the thing that cuts through all fear and doubt.

Love is what connects us all.

Love is the truth of our being.

Love more today without needy attachment, without expectations.

Love freely with all that you are.

It’s always the solution.

Always.

Raising The Bar

The journey of learning how to navigate life here on earth as a sober, conscious and awakened human being has been challenging at times.

Now that I’ve been finally facing the things in my past that have created this character I’ve needed to create to survive on this planet and have driven my thoughts and actions my whole life, I have begun to be free of it little by little.

I wasn’t ready until my soul was ready.

With faith and trust in my creator, I am able to find clarity, make decisions and then act on them with courage.

I can decide today what it is that I want my experience here on earth to look like, and when it’s really close but not quite there, I don’t have to settle out of fear that if I don’t, I’ll never have it.

That’s been my problem my whole life. I’ve settled for almost enough respect, almost enough happiness, almost enough love, almost enough living.

Then slowly but surely the bar got lower and lower and lower until I would accept anything at all.

Finally my life and beliefs got so small that there was no room for hope.

So now I’m in the process of expanding my beliefs about what life can be, setting the bar higher and placing more and more trust in my creator.

My experience so far has amazingly been that life absolutely rises to meet me where I am.

That’s a good reason today for hope.

Feeling Whole

Why is it that I have felt that I needed certain people in my life, whether family, friend or lover?

How had I gotten attached to the idea that I am not okay without them in my life in some form or another?

It seems that I have been looking to others to somehow make me feel whole.

My mother’s love and approval must mean I am a lovable and a good person.

My friends wanting to be around me and share their life with me must mean I am worthy of love and friendship.

My lover wants to be with me therefore I must be attractive, desirable and lovable.

Do I not already know all these things about myself aside from what others see in me?

I was constantly looking to others to know whether or not I was okay with myself.

I was needing without knowing I was needy.

Relationships with others failed or disappointed or worse yet, had me feeling less than instead of the feeling I was seeking which was to be whole.

I was looking to feel whole in places I would never find it.

In reality, I must be whole first to ever come into relationship with others successfully.

I find all that I was seeking to find in others, in building the relationship between myself and my creator.

I finally have a relationship that will never disappointment or lead me astray, that will comfort and love me, and that will give me all that I ever need.

I am free from needing anyone to truly know who I am today.

Truly Inspiring Actions

Could staying away from someone be the truest form of love?

Absolutely.

The definition of love I had been operating off of my whole life is not what I understand it to be today.

It doesn’t feel like truth.

Love had been more about what I could get from being with someone much more than being about what I could give.

What I’ve learned is that it’s always about loving more.

The answer is never about loving less.

To stay with someone, if you know you don’t have the ability to give them everything you would want to give them, everything you know you could give them, just to not be apart, is not love.

And if a person makes a decision to heal from within first and stay away, the most loving and unselfish thing to do is to respect the decision they have made, despite the desire you may have to hold them near.

But how many people love enough to actually separate, allow someone else to have their own experience, in order to work on being able to give all the love they could give to someone else?

The answer is not very many.

I never had.

It’s not the easy thing to do.

To make a decision to separate from someone you love, to prevent causing harm and build within one’s own self first, is actually the ultimate sacrifice you can make.

It is the greatest gift you could give someone you love.

Watching someone actually have the strength to love that much fills my heart and soul.

Because it is such a beautiful thing.

It’s tremendous growth.

It is something to be admired.

It’s truly inspiring.

It’s something to believe in.

Forgiveness

Make no mistake you asked for all of this. The all loving universe responded to your wish as it always does when we set intentions.

This thing, this lesson, this growth, whether your ego agrees or not, likes it or not, is what your soul desires.

And the soul always wins.

The quicker you stop resisting and seek answers from within, and follow what your soul already knows but wants you to remember, the quicker the lesson with be over.

To thine own self be true.

Do without judgement for God does not judge.

You need not forgiveness from Him because nothing you could ever do is wrong in His eyes.

You need forgive yourself for it is in the dark place called your mind that the concept of right and wrong exists.

It is a construct of the human ego.

So the question is:

Can you forgive yourself?

Without Words

You cannot get wet by the spoken or written word “water”.

This is a word that was created to describe the substance that is.

You can see it, touch it and drink it.

It was created to communicate what exists.

The words “love” and “I love you” are an attempt to describe the act or action of loving.

It is not a “feeling”.

By themselves, they are just words that can be heard by the ears but the words are not what can be felt in the heart.

You cannot know and feel love by the word, only by action of being loving.

Love is respectful, kind, honest, giving, unselfish, consistent and committed.

It is not greedy, needy, selfish, careless, hurtful or fickle.

If I wanted to convey love but had no language to use, what would I do?

“The only way you know you love yourself or anyone else is by the contracts you are willing to make and keep.” Pat Allen

What Can I Give Today?

If I am to be anything to anyone else the best thing I can do is build within myself first.

I have found that when I know who I am, when I am spiritually connected, when I focus on the things I need to change in me, when I believe in not just who I am today but who I am becoming, I can then come into relationships with others and bring goodness.

If I don’t have love in me to give then my relationships don’t work. If I’m filled with anger, resentment and fear, that is what I give to others. If I’m filled with judgement of myself then all I do is judge others.

When I love myself I can focus on what I can bring to others, to help lighten their lives and how I can love them better. I can find more peace in these relationships.

It’s in the turning away from what I think I need to get from people and turning to what I can give to them that I find everything I’ve been looking for.

I put each relationship to the test.

What can I bring to my relationships today?

Have I done the work within myself to create loving relationships?

What’s In A Bottom?

Spiritual lessons come in all shapes and sizes, in all areas of life. So do bottoms. The problem with bottoms is that you may think you’re already there and then you go back just to find a new, lower bottom.

In my experience, I don’t really know I’m done with something until some time passes. I may be done for a short time because of the sting of my ego being bruised but then I go back for more.

Inevitably comes a time in every painful situation where the suffering out ways the benefits and therein lies a bottom.

Time away brings clarity. When emotionally removed from a situation I am able to see the truth I couldn’t see while in it.

The real lessons start to be revealed.

What do I really want? Why was I so willing to settle for less than everything I know is possible? Why couldn’t I just let go until now? What was it that drove my actions?

These are valuable questions that, if asked, are surely answered.

Being open to find the answers takes a lot of humility.

The hope is that I don’t keep finding myself in the same situations and expecting different results.

If I really trust in a power that is all loving and wants the best for me then I can let go and trust that if I move on from situations that no longer serve me, there are tremendous gifts on the other side.

The gift in bottoms that seem so sad and tragic at the time, is the growth we can attain, the self knowledge that is possible and faith in a better tomorrow in all things.

It’s only when I believe I deserve better that I attain better.

Today I surrender all to God and love myself enough to allow God to work in my life.

I just let go.