Could staying away from someone be the truest form of love?
The definition of love I had been operating off of my whole life is not what I understand it to be today.
It doesn’t feel like truth.
Love had been more about what I could get from being with someone much more than being about what I could give.
What I’ve learned is that it’s always about loving more.
The answer is never about loving less.
To stay with someone, if you know you don’t have the ability to give them everything you would want to give them, everything you know you could give them, just to not be apart, is not love.
And if a person makes a decision to heal from within first and stay away, the most loving and unselfish thing to do is to respect the decision they have made, despite the desire you may have to hold them near.
But how many people love enough to actually separate, allow someone else to have their own experience, in order to work on being able to give all the love they could give to someone else?
The answer is not very many.
I never had.
It’s not the easy thing to do.
To make a decision to separate from someone you love, to prevent causing harm and build within one’s own self first, is actually the ultimate sacrifice you can make.
It is the greatest gift you could give someone you love.
Watching someone actually have the strength to love that much fills my heart and soul.
Because it is such a beautiful thing.
It’s tremendous growth.
It is something to be admired.
It’s truly inspiring.
It’s something to believe in.