Truly Inspiring Actions

Could staying away from someone be the truest form of love?

Absolutely.

The definition of love I had been operating off of my whole life is not what I understand it to be today.

It doesn’t feel like truth.

Love had been more about what I could get from being with someone much more than being about what I could give.

What I’ve learned is that it’s always about loving more.

The answer is never about loving less.

To stay with someone, if you know you don’t have the ability to give them everything you would want to give them, everything you know you could give them, just to not be apart, is not love.

And if a person makes a decision to heal from within first and stay away, the most loving and unselfish thing to do is to respect the decision they have made, despite the desire you may have to hold them near.

But how many people love enough to actually separate, allow someone else to have their own experience, in order to work on being able to give all the love they could give to someone else?

The answer is not very many.

I never had.

It’s not the easy thing to do.

To make a decision to separate from someone you love, to prevent causing harm and build within one’s own self first, is actually the ultimate sacrifice you can make.

It is the greatest gift you could give someone you love.

Watching someone actually have the strength to love that much fills my heart and soul.

Because it is such a beautiful thing.

It’s tremendous growth.

It is something to be admired.

It’s truly inspiring.

It’s something to believe in.

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Friends?

I used to need specific friends in my life. I didn’t know why I loved having them around because I never took a look at why that was.

I just needed them.

I wasn’t conscious of the fact that it was usually people in my life that made me feel a certain way. It could’ve been that they made me feel safe, wanted, needed or better about myself.

Any or all of those things would do.

The point is, I kept them around to get something I needed, unknowingly.

I thought they were good for me.

I thought for the most part, they helped me.

So when they were actually harming me, I couldn’t see it.

Sometimes it was as subtle as constant manipulative influence through harmful advice or opinions.

Sometimes it wasn’t so subtle like lashing out when they didn’t get their way or just dropping me when they had something else that was more important to them.

Even though when they felt scared that someone else in my life may have been threatening their relationship with me, and they would manipulate the situation, they may or may not have been conscious to it.

Neither was I.

Did they honestly have my best interest at heart?

Or were they just unaware of what they were doing, like I was.

I would either just get over it or make excuses to myself, just so I didn’t have to loose them.

Because I could imagine my life without them.

In the same way I needed them for something I was getting out of it, they were doing the same thing.

Today through relying on God instead of people and actively working on doing all things with love, I can love others without needing them.

I can see it in others when they may be saying or doing things that could harm me because I can see it in myself.

Becoming

“It is the light that encourages the flower to open up to the world.”

I see that all things must be done in love if I am to remember all the things I already know but forgot when I entered this human life and grow towards who and what I am.

If I am not acting out of love then I am acting out of fear.

It’s as simple as those two things.

We came from the ultimate love and love is what we are, and we are perfect just the way we are.

It’s why we want to love.

But to experience who we are and what we want to be, we must do what we don’t want to do.

We can’t know ultimate joy without ultimate pain.

We can’t know hot without cold.

We can’t know the power of our light without darkness.

We can’t know that we don’t want to hurt others unless we know the heartache of causing it.

It’s all part of the lesson, the becoming, the end result, neither good nor bad.

It’s what we are here to do.

Don’t judge yourself for the journey of finding out who you truly are.

You are in the process of coming closer to knowing your perfection and magnificence.

I, just like God, love you just as you are.

And like God, there is nothing you could do that could change that.

Love

All I needed was permission to just love

It came from the one person in this world that speaks truth to me
And I hear it
She said to just give love
No matter what the result
Without conditions or expectations
To love them even when they may not be where I am at
That what I’d been looking for was already all inside of me
That it’s in the giving of love freely
Without judgement
Without care of what anyone else thinks about it
Even if the person I’m giving it to doesn’t feel the same
Even if they don’t have the love to give like I do
It doesn’t matter
Because it’s in the giving love to others that I feel whole
I love because that it what I am here to do
Because love is what I am
Because pure love is what God is
I get closer to God the more I love
Together or not together
With you or without you
I love you with all of me

And to me that is all that matters

Witnessing Miracles

My sober friend, a walking miracle, who travels this road towards truth beside me.

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