Thank god I have loving people in my life, surrounding me, that tell me the truth. They don’t co-sign on my crap and tell me what I want to hear to make me “feel better”.
They don’t hold my hand and placate me co-dependenttly.
That is not love.
They love me enough to risk me being angry by hearing the harsh truth from them.
If the ones I care about continually were to tell me that hurtful behaviour was okay, that I am right to be angry, cowardly, selfish and self centered, then my ego will grasp onto that and tell me I don’t need to change anything.
That I am justified in my actions.
I don’t need to grow towards anything better.
I am stuck.
But I choose those to surround myself with.
If I don’t really want truth and growth, I won’t allow people into my circle that won’t let me get away with selfish, ego driven behaviour.
If I stay stuck I do not grow.
And most of all harm myself.
“Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, DEPEND upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.” Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous